Fun = Necessary
Has there ever felt like there’s seasons where you have to try extra hard to fight for fun in marriage? If you haven’t then you are better than us and more power to you lol. Jose and I have had seasons where it feels like it takes all of our energy to put into adding fun to our marriage! But Jimmy Evans, from Marriage Today, says that “Fun is not a luxury, it’s a necessity.” I’ve found that to be so true in our lives.
Couples that have fun together stay together. Thats not a “could” or “might” it’s a real thing. It’s because of this statement that when those seasons come we fight for FUN! We are intentional about fun. When one doesn’t want to have fun we remind each other why we need fun. That is why I’m going to share with you 5 ways Jose and I make our marriage fun and hope it works for you.
- Have His and Hers date nights
Jose and I will switch every other week on who gets to pick what they want to do for date night. It keeps it fresh and new. One thing that I love feeling when it’s my turn to pick is that he is sacrificing his wants for my own. He makes me feel loved when all we do is get dressed up and go to dinner while he would rather chill and watch a movie. That’s sacrifice. On the other hand when its his turn to pick I feel super good because I know I’m making him happy by doing something he loves (which will probably consist of watching a movie at some point).
Always remember that the key to doing this is to have a positive attitude especially when it’s not your turn to pick. Everything will come against your date night. But don’t let it. Because date nights are crucial for a marriage. You must make it a priority.
2. Eat one meal at home together
This might not sound fun to manybut some our goals and dreams have come from a simple breakfast conversation at the table. If possible cook something together but if not both sit at the table and have uninterrupted time to eat and talk either about your day ahead if your eating breakfast or what your day looked like if it’s dinnertime. Our busy schedules and fast paced world have robbed us from the time at the dinner table as a family. Being able to connect in a way where its something to look forward to makes it fun!
3. Plan a trip once a year
Speaking of looking for something to look forward to every week, this one is a big one. Jose and I always plan and look forward to a trip once a year. This is something that we really believe helps our marriage in many ways. We save together the rest of the year. We dream of how much fun and relaxing this time will be. We are anticipating this trip and helps us feel more connected was we look forward to this together.
On the trip we get to reconnect and use focus on each other and it’s like having multiple date nights in a row! Who doesn’t want that! We’ve gone to Hawaii, Vegas, Cancun and of course Disney lol I know a lot of you are thinking well we don’t afford these trips! And hey I get it. But you can still plan a trip where you don’t have to spend a lot and just leave your town and be away. It could be a weekend trip twice a year. The point is quality time away is good for marriage, it keeps it fun and exciting.
4. Have a group of married friends
This by far has been the most crucial thing we’ve done as a married couple. Jose and I actually host a marriage small group at our church. It wasn’t until a year and a half into our marriage that we started this group, but its been the best decision ever! We have not only met great people through group but marriages who are striving for the same things as we are in our marriages. In group we have gone through material that has helped us in our communication (OMG so much), in our finances, in our love languages and love tanks, and oh so much more. We literally can’t imagine where we would be at if not for this group of people spurring us on week in and week out.
5. Go on an adventure for a day
This one is more so what can you do tomorrow, don’t need planning kinda of thing. We don’t get too many days off together but that fine it can be a date night adventure or half day kind of thing. I’ve always loved on the spot adventure kind of days. Jose has warmed up to these as he’s seen how much fun they can be! On national beer day we started at one local pub and drank a beer. Then we were like “what the heck let’s hit up another one!” We ended up drinking one beer at 4 different pubs and it literally was the most fun we’ve had on an adventure in a long time!
Another time we decided to go on a random bike ride and went around our block and we dreamed of having a home as nice as the ones we passed by. It gave our marriage vision and we weren’t even being intentional about that. We’ve gone to our local gym to swim in their heated pools. We’ve gone to the store to get a cute floaty and swim at our pool. Fresh, fun, out of the normal adventures. Do them.
It’s no doubt that life can pass us by and we don’t take time to have fun. We need fun. Fun is a necessity not a luxury. If you want to have a marriage with purpose, a marriage that lasts, you need fun! What do you and your spouse do for fun? Write me comment below, I’d love to know!
